Yes - you don't think it really happens. Only parents who actually abuse their children whine. Only parents accused of hurting their child complain. But, what about those of us parents who never harmed our child, or any other? What about those of us parents who are not even accused of harming a child? What then? Why would DHS/CPS get involved?
In May of 2007, in response to a false allegation by the police that I must still be faced with in court(where there is no real evidence to say that I saw the ever dreaded, no-no word, child pornography on a computer and am now a monster in the face of everyone who's sold on the media - except those who know me and the truth - oh yeah, and was NEVER arrested because of the lack of evidence that will rely entirely on a scary, ghost story to mislead jurors, hoping that they media-hype created on this issue will cover up the facts that could otherwise provide my innocence), DHS began their investigation into this, single father. Aha! A man - so, I must be guilty. Oh, c'mon - don't be sarcastic in your reply - because THAT'S HOW I am being treated! Well, did they find any evidence of abuse? Nope. Neglect? Nope? Harm in any way? Nope. Should have been end of story, right?
Nope.
DHS/CPS has OAR rules governing what they do. They must use a GAP assessment form, complete a CPS assessment, and even if they determine a person is guilty, then proceed to find every way possible to return a child home, and if they don't - there must be a DARN good reason. But, of course, it took FOUR months, out of the 7 days (maximum), permitted by OAR laws for CPS to perform their assessment. Again, no one ever accused me of hurting my son, and there was no reason to believe it. So, they sent me to a clinic that is run by a man who has repeatedly presented himself in courtrooms as a 'doctor,' presented psychological profiles that he is not licensed or qualified to present, and has only been called on it by a few who were able to later find out - HE'S NOT A PSYCHOLOGIST! Well, OAR laws allow DHS to get a psychology evaluation. The evaluation they sent me to wasn't a psychology evaluation, but a traumatizing event I was forced to undergo that will leave me with nightmares for the rest of my life. Now - DHS has already violated multiple OAR laws, but next comes the so-called, 'doctor,' who is violating multitudes of state and criminal laws - and exceeds the boundaries of his evaluation to then state that not only am I a 'threat of harm,' to my own son, but all children and have probably been dangerous to children in the past.
Wait a sec? Didn't psychologists - or even, 'specialists,' who weren't doctors have to adhere to a principal of ethics that prevents them from fabricating facts and making up false reports that they didn't even use any scientific methods to determine?? Well, why should this guy adhere to any level of ethics - after all, he's helped falsely imprison many, many people (and yes, it's on record and proven), but abused his position to further his career by attacking licensed psychologists, falsely representing himself as more qualified and further condemning MORE people - AND MORE children! But - DHS wouldn't buy that, right? WRONG. DHS waited for his report - knowing that it would come back against me (although I forget to mention I passed all the physical exams and polygraphs proving my innocence), and THEN took my son, and for his best interest, sent him to my mother. But, here's where the real mistake was made - I complained. Yup, I wrote the director and codirectors of DHS who then used their position to help the caseworker get her vengeance (as I quoted to the directors, that the caseworker was violating OAR laws and endangering children).
So, in comes the caseworker, takes my son and gives him to his biological mother who has been absent for 7 years (abandoned him when he was 1), further fabricates lies, lies to courts, breaks OAR laws requiring them to try and see if my son can be returned home, completely circumventing that, literally SILENCING a judge in a court room to prevent me from presenting evidence of their lies, and then later admitted that they knew that their actions were causing my son extreme, emotional trauma and abuse (and yes, I have it recorded). They admitted they knew I hadn't abused him and weren't even worried I would - just that the 'threat of harm,' decided by the so-called, 'doctor,' was really, all they needed [to break the law, obviously]. And so, I've spent months trying to stop them, only to have my son's CASA worker, tell my family that once DHS takes a child that they will, NEVER give him back, to have DHS lie to me and my child causing him trauma and abuse that I can prove OVER and OVER again, having my son's biological mother neglecting my child SO badly that she has been sending him to school in soiled clothing risking E-Coli bacteria exposure and threatening his life, lying to him in detremental ways such as telling him that I have moved and his home and things are gone or that his kitty is gone and he will never see him again (the kitty my son had raised for a year, on his own and cared for and is sick over), and you can see the red circles under his eyes, see his continuing decline in school and social activities and know that other abuses are going on.
But - will anyone help? Nope - a public defender assigned to me who doesn't approve of single fathers, told me I should just, 'step out of the way and let his mother take him,' and who I now have to let abuse her position and force me to handle my case on my own just so I can make one last effort. The Governor and Senators - all of them, say, too bad. No response from the Attorney General, no response from the authorities - nothing. And, why? For the most part - because the media has trained the public to believe that anyone with child porn on their computer is a monster - and while that may be true to an extent, what they have FORGOTTEN to mention - is that it only applies when the computer wasn't HIJACKED and there is PROOF that it was!
So, down goes my son. Down goes a father's promise to protect him and care for him. Another statistic to add to the TENS OF THOUSANDS being wracked up by DHS. Oh yeah - the head director quit in 2007 - why? Because, as she puts it - she hopes now the state will pay attention and they can get away from the Federal report card of doing a, 'D,' (WAY below average) level job in child protection both in protecting abused children and placing them - including NOT taking away healthy children from healthy families). And, you can take the time to look it up, although I can quote multiple court cases now where this has happened repeatedly - but DHS has NO evidence of abuse, no VALID report of abuse (just the report that says I should stay away from kids --- but, no real reason 'why,' cause even the evaluator couldn't make up that many lies), a declining health of a wonderful, little boy - and rather than deal with it, they are AGAIN violating MORE OAR laws and trying to force the custody that I've had for 8+ years over to my son's biological mom. That will alleviate them of responsibility, and they can blame her when it continues to go wrong.
And, every day, every night, every minute is a nightmare. Every second of my life is torrential fear and concern. I see my son [maybe, if I'm lucky] twice per week. They won't let me see him without being frisked, and sealed containers with food, that I bring in for snacks, or sealed containers with a small gift, that I bring in for him, being torn through and examined. And, we sit behind a mirror like caged animals being watched. And no one helps. The media doesn't cover it - and I don't know why. What if we educated the people as to what DHS is doing? What if there were a story that DHS couldn't validate, verify, prove or back up that would PROVE the horrors that DHS is wreaking upon innocent children? What if there were a horror story of some computer-monster (like I'm being accuse of), that suddenly turned out to be such a farce that the public had a chance to be outraged and DEMAND change? What if we used the NEWS, to acutally educate people and report both sides of the story? Well, that would be a change, wouldn't it? Of course, I'm in Bend - and our NEWS doesn't exist. Help over here, doesn't exist. And DHS keeps hurting children, innocent families keep getting destroyed and everyone turns a blind eye to the truth - ONLY - when they know they are in a position to stop it, and don't.
From one who has lost hope and wonders if these are the last words I shall get to say, if these last few months of hell of my life will also be the last - for I have been condemned to death. Any father, who is truly a father, who has been taken away from the child he loves and has sworn to care for - is nothing. And, from my son, who cannot speak, for he too, like me, has been silenced - and cries out for them to let him come home, but no one listens, only lies and forces him to submit -
Thanks for listening. I wish you, and all your families the best. Being a dad was the happiest time in my life, and without help - there is no hope, and no reason to continue forward.
(written by cybermom for my son - who has limited computer contact)
